When, my mother, aged 60, said to me "all my life I've been a daughter, a wife, and a mother, now I want to know who I am" I was impressed by her desire to create a life for herself instead of settling into aging. And I was so grateful I had grown up with more social freedom than she had had. In that moment I didn't see that I was also stuck in a box of social constraints that I took for granted.
What social norms have 'boxed' you in? What heart-dream have you stopped dreaming because it seems impossible (or not permissible)? Does that dream still lurk, leaving you dissatisfied, empty, wondering what happened to your sense of purpose, your liveliness? Has it been replaced with the frustration of knowing that there's more to life, more to you, except you don't know how to reach that more?
The box I was trapped in was called 'a good job'. My parents lived through the stress of the Great Depression and a world war, and I'd picked up from them that it was very important to have 'a good job', to be financially secure. After trying several jobs I finally landed the proverbial good job with a large company that could give me all the desired benefits, but instead of giving me a sense of achievement, all the job did was pay my bills. I had no sense of purpose and no enthusiasm for the work. The first few years there were some interesting challenges, then the boredom set in, but I was too dependent on the security of my salary to leave.
What is keeping you stuck without purpose, without enthusiasm and love for life? Do you feel unheard, unimportant, taken for granted? What do you long for instead?
And then I was retrenched. After the shock wore off and I could breathe again, I realised this was my opportunity to step into two dreams - of being of service to others and of being self-employed. I had to dig deep to silence the inner voice that told me that this was too risky, I shouldn't and couldn't do it. But my new career as a natural health practitioner was my chance to live my heart's desires and I had to step into it, scary though it was.
What's the cost of procrastinating, always putting your dream on hold, while you just get by, stuck in old habits that keep you stuck?
I now have 20 years experience and training to help you free yourself from inner doubts, enable you to live and work from your heart-space, and create a foundation for success.
If you yearn to start living true to yourself, I am here to help you.